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You’ve Got to Really WANT it.

by J. Money on Monday, April 26, 2010

You know what’s funny about personal finance? That no matter how many times you’re told to spend less, or create a budget, or save 10% or whatever else we hear all the time, most of us still don’t do it. And do you know why? Because we really don’t WANT to change. Or at least put in enough effort to make it possible (that’s why people go gaga for get-rich-quick type schemes! Big reward for little action!).

Just like losing weight or quitting smoking, you really have to WANT IT to make things happen. And not in The Secret kinda way either ;) I’m talkin’ TRULY wanting it bad enough to really put in the time and effort required to make whatever it is you want to happen, happen. The truth is, a lot of this stuff doesn’t come easy. It may be simple in theory (the basics of personal finance is NOT complicated), but for most of us it requires some fine tuning of both our brains AND our daily routines.

Stuff doesn’t just *happen* without us actually prioritizing it. If you’re looking to save up for that house down payment, or you wanna clear out all that debt once and for all, you’ve gotta bump it to the top of the list and get passionate!

Without passion, our goals drop as fast as they do during New Years ;) Remember those promises lies to ourselves? How many of us actually accomplished our resolutions this year? I can tell you for a fact that the only ones I’m still rockin’ are the ones having to do with money ;) And quite frankly it’s because they are the only ones I truly care about enough to actually DO something about ‘em. It would be awesome to have better handwriting or become a movie extra (been “trying” for 10 years on that one!) but the reality is that I just don’t care enough to fully act on them.

If you want results you’ve got to put in the EFFORT. And that includes prioritizing too. People don’t become debt-free or rich in a day. It takes a lot of time and a lot of dedication. But the good thing is, everything’s possible! You’ve just gotta commit first ;)


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1 jolie April 26, 2010 at 9:15 am

Come to think of it, the only ones I’ve really stuck with are the money ones too. I never thought of it that way before. Thanks J.

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2 sarah oneill April 26, 2010 at 9:18 am

What’s a “move extra”?

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3 Brandi April 26, 2010 at 9:48 am

And here you are again with the motivating blog version of a kick in the ass!

Thanks for this. I definitely needed it with all I’ve got going on. I am SO buying that house fall of 2011. And to make that happen I’ve got to BUCKLE DOWN.

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4 J. Money April 26, 2010 at 10:01 am

haha…oops – “movie extra” ;)

DO IT BRANDI!!! It’s all you, baby!

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5 Jersey Mom April 26, 2010 at 10:37 am

Very true. Actions speak louder than words. If someone says they want to accumulate wealth but does nothing about it, it just means that they don’t care enough.

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6 Young Mogul April 26, 2010 at 10:43 am

Change definately has to be a priority for it to happen. I never had bad financial habits, but when I decided to move to a minimalist lifestyle, I decided to track my spending meticulously. My blog has been my way of holding myself accountable.

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7 simple in france April 26, 2010 at 11:05 am

I think this is probably true with most kinds of change that involve willpower–such as dieting for example. . .

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8 Jane April 26, 2010 at 11:08 am

I just wrote a 500 word comment about being a movie extra that got eaten by the internet. Argh! That’s what I get for being verbose, I guess.

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9 kt April 26, 2010 at 12:46 pm

its a funny thing that every thing whether good or bad starts in the mind. i think that is why there is such hullabaloo about having good constructive thoughts all the time. even commitment starts in the mind and is then translated into actions.

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10 DD April 26, 2010 at 1:50 pm

I agree with Brandi about the motivating kick in the butt :)! I totally needed this today. Every summer my friends and I hit the summer concert circuit. After reading your post, I made the decision that while it would be nice to hit a few of the concerts, I’d rather save up my itty bitty blow money for a couple months to be able to participate in a girls weekend coming up in July. This keeps me on budget, and I won’t spend money NOW that’s not budgeted for. Instead, I’ll put aside a portion of my blow money over the next three months to enjoy time with them later. I REALLY want to be debt free, so I’m making it my PRIORITY. Thanks for the kick!

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11 Laura April 26, 2010 at 2:33 pm

This is why they created on-line banking (not really but it’s what motivates me). When I log in I see it- my graduate school loan. And it is a constant reminder that I hate my loan more than I love DVDs, a flat screen television or a car with a trunk that unlocks from the outside! And so I scrape together my nickels and dimes to throw them at my loan, until one day I will have pelted it with so much money, it will go away.

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12 ctreit April 26, 2010 at 4:20 pm

I think wanting it is only part of the equation. Or rather, it is a necessary first step, but it is not sufficient. As you said, you still need to find the energy to put the required effort behind what you really want. And then there is also the unknown. Stuff happens. Setbacks happen. They are often beyond our control. Unfortunately a sequence of setbacks can wear somebody down to the point of even giving up on the want.

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13 doctor S April 26, 2010 at 5:40 pm

Getting anything done is a total unpredictable process. Whether its personal finance or avoiding getting voted off on a reality show, you have to stay on top of your priorities and agile enough to react appropriately in your environment. You could be going great with your budget and then WHAM! some old lady (w/o car insurance) rear ends you… Now what? Good example? Prob a bad one. But regardless… many times we want something so bad and then Life throws us a very large impediment that slows us down… or many times… forces us to lose sight of our goal.

Dont slow down. Drink a red bull and run right over whatevers in your way! (I obviously am letting out my frustration of being at work at 539PM.. i am trying to run over my P.M. who is in my way of finishing this project!)

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14 Adam@Magical Penny April 26, 2010 at 6:18 pm

Brilliant post J. You can write goals all you want (and you should too) but actually living with them day in day out is key.

My main new years resolution was starting a blog. Developed it in January, Launching February and while it’s early days it’s going well. But I know why: because I WANT IT.

The days go by so fast that everyone only really has time for so many things. You have to want something if you’re going to squeeze it into your life.
Keep rocking it dude.

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15 Shelly April 26, 2010 at 8:08 pm

J Money…How about you pass the collection plate so I can put my offering in there :D

Your note is just so own point! Personal finance really doesn’t have to be this scary thing. And when you REALLY want something, you do whatever you can to get it done. So glad that I stumbled upon your blog at the end of last year/early this year. Granted we’re just entering in the 5th month of the year, but it’s full speed ahead. And truth be told, I’m like, how whack was it that we (hubby and I) didn’t do this before. That’s okay though – you live and you learn. And now that we’ve learned, we’re not going back. Those spreadsheets say it all. Getting a little tempted to “divert” from the budget cause “you’ve just being doing so well”….Just open up that spreadsheet again and see the progress you made since January…Works like a charm for me everytime :-D

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16 David April 27, 2010 at 12:19 am

I find it slightly ironic that, though it’s not related to personal finance, I REALLY REALLY REALLY need to finish this paper but instead I get sidetracked and read a post on your blog about “you’ve got to really want it!”

I want a good grade, but I guess I don’t want it bad enough haha

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17 J. Money April 27, 2010 at 11:35 am

haha…glad you all are enjoying this one ;) we all know that just WANTING something doesn’t work all the way, but you need it to get started, baby!!! Consider this a kick in the a$$ for everyone who needs it!

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