Was talking to a friend the other day on how people love to complain about things but never do anything about ’em, and he hit me with a convo he used to have with his employees back in the corporate days:
I will listen to your complaints twice.
Once right now, and one more time later.
And then it’s done or solved, and you can’t complain to me about it again.
That’ll stop you in your tracks! Haha…
But I love it for a number of reasons. First, it gives you some clear expectations right off the bat, but secondly – and more importantly – it RESHAPES the convo from something not very helpful to something ACTION ORIENTED! All the while still giving you a grace period to bitch one more time while you’re searching for solutions :)
Such a good mentality, and something I think we could ALL use a healthy dose of in our lives. Especially when it comes to money.
How many times do we love to complain about all the debt we have or how we’re “always poor”? Or that we suck at hitting budgets/promotions/goals/general life plans?
I know I do it! And I literally just became a millionaire!!
But while some of these complaints are legit, it also doesn’t help much putting negative energy out there when it can be processed in a much healthier way. Maybe we allow ourselves to whine only once, and then try hard to squash the second one and think of my good friend here?? How much better would our worlds be if everyone decided to do this?? All social media platforms would cease to exist!!! Haha…
I also think it gets easier when we stop to *appreciate* just how far we’ve come in this world. Both in our personal and our financial lives. You’ll be hard pressed to find someone better off 10 or 20 years ago than they are now (and if so – they had some major changes in their life and are allowed to complain!!), but by and large most of us will find we’ve made leaps and bounds and life isn’t quite as bad as we often make it out to be. And honestly, I don’t think it’ll ever be *perfect* because life isn’t perfect! Whether you have a billion dollars or a hundred dollars to your name.
So while we can’t always help *thinking* negatively, we can at least stop the negativity from coming out of our mouth. And maybe even get a little done towards our goals too by directing all that energy – imagine that?! :)
If all else fails, try putting out a “complaint” jar, haha… Similar to a “swear” jar, except you throw in $1.00 every time you complain instead of curse. I did it yearrrrrs ago for Lent once and improved my thoughts by at least 80% – no joke. The hardest part was literally just *catching* myself before the words came out! Once you get that down the rest is easy. (And then you have a nice pile of cash from the jar to amp your goals too, haha…)
Anyways, food for thought today… If you know anyone who could use this message and want to slyly forward it over to them, I won’t tell anyone! Good friends are great, but good friends who don’t bitch 24×7 are even better. Ain’t nobody got time for that.
Jay loves talking about money, collecting coins, blasting hip-hop, and hanging out with his three beautiful boys. You can check out all of his online projects at jmoney.biz. Thanks for reading the blog!