You know those times when people look down at you for something? Or think you’re a complete and utter whack job? Or stare at you as if you’re going to murder their children just because your hair stands tall in spikes? ;)
Well, to those people we say: I’m gonna do me and you can suck it.
Nike may have popularized Just Do It, but I say Just Do YOU. Live your life on your own terms and stick to what makes you happy/successful/motivated! I don’t care if it’s collecting marbles to hawk or running barefoot to work every day to save a couple of bucks (though that would be something!). You do what you need to do to reach your goals and let the people ogle. What does it concern them?
A man and his son were once going to the market with their donkey. As they were walking along by its side, a countryman passed them and said: “You fools, what is a donkey for but to ride upon?”
So the man put the boy on the donkey and they went on their way. But soon they passed a group of men, one of whom said: “See that lazy youngster, he lets his father walk while he rides.”
So the man ordered his boy to get off, and got on himself. But they hadn’t gone far when they passed two women, one of whom said to the other: “Shame on that lazy lout to let his poor little son trudge along.”
Well, the man didn’t know what to do, but at last he took his boy up before him on the donkey. By this time they had come to the town, and the passers-by began to jeer and point at them. The man stopped and asked what they were scoffing at. The men said:
“Aren’t you ashamed of yourself for overloading that poor donkey of yours and your hulking son?”
The man and boy got off and tried to think what to do. They thought and they thought, ’till at last they cut down a pole, tied the donkey’s feet to it, and raised the pole and the donkey to their shoulders.
They went along amid the laughter of all who met them ’till they came to a bridge, when the donkey, getting one of his feet loose, kicked out and caused the boy to drop his end of the pole. In the struggle, the donkey fell over the bridge and his fore-feet being tied together he was drowned.
“That will teach you,” said an old man who had followed them.
The moral, of course: Please all, and you will please none.
Or again, my version: I’m gonna do me and you can suck it.
People will hate and wonder and poke fun at you for the rest of your life. It’ll never change because people are just a$$holes sometimes. And while it can hurt and sting, do try your best to remember this story of the poor donkey and his carriers. You can’t please everyone, but you really don’t need to either – you just need to please yourself! (And, well, maybe your mother ;) Unless she’s the one doing the poking, in which case just smile and nod, haha…)
If either of these mantras are too long to remember, just go with: whatevs*. Brush that dirt off your shoulders and move along with your debt-kicking, wealth-growing, early-retirement-career-loving ways! This is your world! And yes, it’s possible to retire early and still have a career. A career in “doing as you please every day” that is – BOOM!
I doubt anyone would be making fun of you at that point… Who do you know that’s financially free among your circles? This blog and the online world excluded? No one, right? You’re the ones who should be pointing those fingers! You’ve figured it out and are on your way while the rest of the lazy asses are tied to the grind forever. And really it’s not that much of a sacrifice, is it? You’re still enjoying life while watching that money? It’s amazing how many first world problems there are these days. Thank God we know how to move around them now!
So the next time someone disapproves and gives you “the look,” just turn the other way and keep going with your bad self. Haters are gonna hate, but the hustlers get what they want out of life. And that’s really what you’re going after here – genuine happiness. Better to gain it for yourself than to conform and give it away to others.
*If this is your license plate, I LOVE YOU.
Jay loves talking about money, collecting coins, blasting hip-hop, and hanging out with his three beautiful boys. You can check out all of his online projects at jmoney.biz. Thanks for reading the blog!