Happy Festivus For the Rest of Us! Haha.. Remember that, Seinfeld lovers? I miss that show :) Unfortunately we’re not celebrating THAT holiday today, but we are another one here in the States and I think Canada – Labor Day – and contrary to what it’s about, I’m sure many of you will still be laboring (sorry!). Times are what they are these days, eh?
For those who *are* off today though, I hope you’re filling yourselves with relaxation and hanging out with friends and loved ones :) I know that’s what I’ll be doing once I get this post up and out the door and knock out some emails… And I’ll be proud of myself for doing that ‘cuz sometimes you just have to STOP and quit going a mile a minute to smell the life around us. I’ve learned from experience that when you go hardcore in one direction or another (career, love, saving, spending, etc), it usually ends up having the opposite intended effect.
And I’ve been thinking a LOT about that lately. Mainly because of the new life with the baby and how I don’t have as much time as I used to before, but also because all I do – day in and day out – is try to hustle and find the next big project to make more and more, and even MORE money down the road. So I can then hit Goal A and B and C,D, E, F, G to the motha f’ing Z, haha…. Which is great for staying motivated, but not so much for living in the moment and keeping the stress levels down ;) Something I’ve been pretty bad at over the years.
I get so caught up thinking about the *future*, that it’s very hard at times to appreciate TODAY. Right this second as we’re all living and breathing and reading blogs this morning ;) Yes it’s important to plan and work for the future – that’s unavoidable anyways – BUT being able to catch yourself and slow down a bit here and there can do some pretty important wonders too. And I’ll admit I’m not the best at it. (Anyone have any pointers??).
So today, and hopefully tomorrow and the next day and the next day after that, I’m gonna make a much more valiant effort at slowing down my hustle and appreciating the simplicity of each day I’m granted. IF I’m lucky to even have such a day, you know? We say it all the time that “you never know what’s going to happen tomorrow” but there really is something to it. What if you don’t wake up in the morning? What if you lose your job? What if you win the lottery??? (Had to throw in *some* positive event here! Haha…). We really just don’t know 100%. And therefore need to take advantage of the time we DO have here on this beautiful green Earth.
I’m sorry if we’re getting too down and deep today, but I really think it’s important to take this step back and reflect a little. Even if for only a 15 min walk around the block or call with a friend or something. How many of you have like 5 people you need to call back right now, but are too afraid of doing it ‘cuz you know each of them will suck an hour or two each of catching up? Cuz you’ve gone too long w/out talking? I hate that… and then it makes things worse cuz you get so overwhelmed that you end up not calling back any of them and feel horrible about it, ugh…
The same thing can apply with setting money goals as well. You want to save $2,000 in 6 months? Great! Don’t wait 3 months to start putting it away in larger chunks, or for some magical money-fairy to come and do it for you. Start saving TODAY and on a weekly level, little by little, so by the end of the 6 mos you’ve eventually hit your goal! Don’t rush and try to fast forward time – I fall into this trap all the time and it’s so stupid. The faster we reach those goals, the less time we have left on this Earth – ever thought about that? Every now and then I catch myself wishing that 12 years will hurry on and speed on by so I can finally hit that Millionaire status, and I have to constantly remind myself that I’d much rather LIVE those 12 years instead and get their slower ;) What’s the point of all that money if you don’t have any time left to use it anyways?
I may be rambling here, but the point is – slow it all down and get back to appreciating your baby steps. Some might be more productive than others, and you’ll probably get caught up and rush through the time for whatever reason it is we do that, but if absolutely possible try and remind yourself every day that you are growing. In both life, and in money. Soak it in and be proud of yourselves!! There’s no need to hurry up and hit the finish line – we’ll get there when we get there.
I don’t know if it’ll help, but I’m gonna create a calendar item right now in Gmail to alert me every week to hit pause and reflect. It’s going to say, “Hey you! Slow the F down and go kiss your baby!” Haha… you may need to tweak it a little if you want to try it yourself ;) But if it slows me down just a little, and reminds me of what’s truly important in every day life, then I’ll call it a nice success. I’m tired of waking up every morning and pushing turbo charge just to get through the day and start the whole crazy thing ll over again the next day. I’ll be 90 before I know it!
How are you guys handling this stuff? Do you have good ways of slowing yourself down? Or have I just completely lost it, and you’re never coming back here again? ;)
In either case, Happy (Non) Labor Day!
(Photo by pasa47)
Jay loves talking about money, collecting coins, blasting hip-hop, and hanging out with his three beautiful boys. You can check out all of his online projects at jmoney.biz. Thanks for reading the blog!