A couple weeks ago I asked readers here to tell us one of the hardest financial problems you’ve ever gotten over, and we got a TON of responses. It helped that I baited y’all with a free book giveaway (haha…) but one of these comments keeps popping up in my thoughts so I thought I’d share it with you. Having just celebrated Mother’s Day it’s pretty fitting too :)
It may not affect all of you like it did me, but I hope it at least gives you faith that hard work and a strong will really DOES pay off in the end – no matter what life throws at us. Here’s what my new friend Donna had posted:
“Well, I was once a single mom of three ages 6,4, and 3. I had a single wide trailer and a car with payments. Of course I had the trailer payment and lot rent. I tried to get food stamps but I could only do that if I took off work (I had no paid time off) and stood in line all day. I drove 50 miles round trip to a part time job. By the time I paid everyone and put just enough gas in my car I had $10 for food. Now granted this was 1982 but still! I planned very carefully with what I had, like one gallon of milk, one loaf of bread, etc. I got free lunch for my oldest who was in school. The vending machine company I worked for, the other servicemen would save still good food but too old for the vending machine and give it to me. I ate a leftover sandwich for dinner, no breakfast and whatever I had at lunch. I lost 25 pounds but my children were fed. I have never forgotten where I came from at that time. I did not care about my own needs but only of those of my kids. Now, I always preach to them about being ready for emergencies. I am now debt free but I will never forget how I felt at that time.”
Since I was really moved by this, I asked her if it was okay to re-post this up in hopes it would inspire others too. She of course agreed to it (or else you wouldn’t be reading this right now :) ), but she also expanded on her experiences even more:
“I can tell you I did not feel deprived at the time. I just accepted the fact that my decision to get away from an abusive husband had consequences. These consequences were poverty and lack, however I also had peace, joy and knowing I was providing for my children on my own. I had often thought I might have scarred my children during this time but they still talk fondly (at ages 30,32 and 36!) about the free cookies they got from my friends. Who would have thought? I think sometimes we try and spare our children during hard times when we actually deprive them of valuable learning opportunities and preparation for those times of adversity that will happen in their adult years. Well, there you have it, my 54 year old wisdom in a nutshell … lol.”
To be able to change your life like that is freakin’ amazing, and I admire the crap out of her. Donna was on a mission and she made it happen. And I hope it gives you all faith that you can do the same as long as you’re passionate and keep putting in the hard work. Whatever it is you’re trying to accomplish right now (financially or not), just take it one step at a time and keep pounding away at it. There’s no doubt in my mind you won’t make it eventually.
Jay loves talking about money, collecting coins, blasting hip-hop, and hanging out with his three beautiful boys. You can check out all of his online projects at jmoney.biz. Thanks for reading the blog!