You know how to really jinx yourself?
Send out something like this on Twitter:
Then wait 24 hours for your wife to call you into the bathroom waving around a pee stick and asking what you did to put a baby in her stomach! Haha…
“Oh you know what I did!” I jokingly respond back, half in shock and half freaking out… “Yes, but WHAT ARE WE GOING TO DO NOW??” my wife cryingly replies – surely not expecting it.
That was about 3 months ago, and now that we’re out of the first trimester and allowed to share it with the world (so far so healthy!!) we’re back to sane-ville again and much more collected :)
But wow what a shock to receive when you’re not planning for it! We always talked about having more kids later, but “later” just seemed so much more later! Haha… That’s how life works sometimes though, doesn’t it? One minute you’re nice and comfy just going with the routine, and then the next you’re hit with an amazing adventure! And what an amazing adventure it’ll indeed be…
WE’RE HAVING A BABY Y’ALL!!!
LIKE IN 6 MONTHS!
My boys are too cute and already coming up with names for it depending on what sex it is. We’ve got “Clara” for a girl, because they know a Clara that they both like, and then “Boyder” for a boy. Because, well, it starts with “boy” and they made it up thinking they were hilarious ;)
But of course we all know what we’re really going to call him/her: Baby Dime. To fit nicely with our Baby Penny and Baby Nickel theme going on here :)
This news also speeds up a few other areas of life as well:
#1. My wife is finally going to get her minivan! Because like a good husband, I promised it to her last year when she was kind enough to let me get my SUV (smooches!).
#2. I’m going to try being a stay-at-home dad now who blogs on the side vs a stay-at-home blogger who dads on the side! :) Something I’ve always wanted to try but wasn’t able to with my first two kids (because I was a *ahem* workaholic), and also because I refuse to shell out another $2,000 a month for daycare! Especially right when we just chopped it down to only $450 due to the beauty that is the public school system, haha…
#3. We’re going to work our way back to my beloved Virginia to be closer to family again. Which I cannot WAIT for because this DC area is just giving me the hives… And not just because of the politics! This was always our mission here once the wife got her career under way, but now with this ammunition hopefully we’re able to pull it off sooner than later…
And finally, #4) It’s time to work less, but live more. I.E. stop working nights and weekends while still somehow getting all my blog stuff done during the day and at the same time caring for a crying/pooping/non sleeping newborn baby :) Shouldn’t be a problem at all?!
I’ll actually be blogging more about this here in a bit, but in a nutshell I’ve already implemented two new habits since learning of this baby news and I’m proud to share that I’ve completed them magnificently:
- I’ve only worked 2-3 nights total in the past 3 months (!)
- I haven’t opened up my laptop even *once* on a single weekend in 3 months (!!!!)
How???? Because I literally just told myself “no more” and forced myself to cram it all in during the week no matter what it takes. And surprise surprise, when you put limits on yourself like that (and when you’re *serious* about those limits!) you actually get $hit done! Amazing!
Again, more on this later, but if you’ve been struggling with this work/life balance stuff, I HIGHLY encourage you giving one of these a shot above and seeing how you feel afterwards. Hell, start this weekend coming up if you can! See if you can go the entire time without touching your computer once!
(Wondering what I’ve been doing now with all my spare time, btw? A ton of reading (physical books), a ton of relaxing, a ton of exploring and hanging out with my kids, and a ton of – wait for it – NAPPING! Something I haven’t thought about, or done, in the past 30 years! And my wife said she noticed how much more *present* I’ve been as well, so needless to say these habits are for the long haul :))
Now how will this baby stuff effect our finances??
Well, I think we all know the answer to that – hah! – but seeing how I’ve stopped tracking all our baby costs once word of our 2nd kid was coming, we’re very purposefully not going to be finding out how much exactly our expenses will rise so we don’t freak ourselves out too much ;)
I will say though that if we have another boy it’ll be much cheaper since we already have gobs of hand me downs, but if it’s a girl my wallet is pretty much going to have to be ripped out of my hands because I will not be able to stop spoiling her as she will be daddy’s little girl!! And I will enjoy every second of it!
And then there’s the whole health insurance debacle too, but thank GOD we’re connected with my wife’s job now which is about a billion times better than when we were riding solo:
Oh, and here’s something else pretty interesting: Because my wife is now over 35 she is considered “old” and “high risk”, haha… So now she has to take all these extra tests to make sure everything is fine, while I go around talking about how old she is (even though I’m older) ;)
What she does like about this though, is that because of all these new tests and how far advanced technology is nowadays, we actually get to learn the sex of the baby SUPER early compared to previous times! And because I wanted it to be a surprise but she didn’t, my wife actually knows RIGHT NOW what the sex is but I don’t – gasp! And so far she hasn’t slipped!
We’ll see how long that lasts, but I’m going to enjoy it for as long as I can, while secretly hoping for a baby girl so our house doesn’t turn into Testosterone Castle. Can you imagine THREE little boys running around the place PLUS me??
My wife’s going to be in trouble :) But of course, as long as both mommy and baby are happy in the end I will be one very proud and happy daddy/husband.
6 more months to go!! Wish us luck figuring it all out, and may your own baby making goals come to fruition if and when you’re ready too :)
Gotta take your blessings when they’re given, even if they throw you for a loop!
Thanks for being along for the journey… It’s a lot less scary with a community of friends :)
Jay loves talking about money, collecting coins, blasting hip-hop, and hanging out with his three beautiful boys. You can check out all of his online projects at jmoney.biz. Thanks for reading the blog!